Learn to tolerate uncertainty

In my therapy office and on stage, I talk a lot about how we need to learn to tolerate uncertainty. This concept comes from Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT) in the treatment of anxiety. We always worry about future-related events. The common thread is our need to have as little uncertainty in life as possible. The problem […]

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Nicky Abdinor Real Talk TV Interview

My Live TV Interview on Real Talk

Two weeks ago I was one of the guests on SABC 3’s SAFTA award-winning talk show, “Real Talk.” The show is hosted by 702’s Azania Mosaka. It was a live TV interview with a focus on recognising people with disabilities who have advanced in their careers despite the real (and perceived!) obstacles around disability in […]

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Mandela Day: 27 Gifts in Honour of Madiba’s Legacy

Make Every Day a Mandela Day. I love that South Africa has embraced the 18th of July, Nelson Mandela’s birth date, as an annual celebration of service in honour of his legacy. Many donate “67 minutes” of their time and resources to commemorate the 67 years that Madiba fought for justice. The premise behind this […]

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Burnout: Are we there yet?

At his time of the year, many of us are in the “Are we there yet?” phase. I’d say the majority of my recent therapy referrals are affected in some way or another by burnout. A large percentage of my therapy practice are employee wellness referrals and I often wonder how the HR Managers are […]

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A “Good Life” for 2016

In a therapy session this week, a client and I were discussing how working life has changed (mostly through technology) but that WE haven’t changed. We haven’t evolved into beings that need less sleep and self-care. Imagine the days when a corporate job really ended at 5pm and you were only reachable the following day […]

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I’m not good enough. What’s the evidence?

In a recent therapy session with a client, we uncovered that much of her current anxiety, self-doubt and subsequent stagnation in her managerial role was linked to negative feedback that she received 3 years ago from a senior manager. He told her that she was “not good enough” and moved her to another department. For […]

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20 things you might not know about me

In the spirit of authenticity, Robyn Young (Brandheart Personal Branding) inspired me to share a few things that you might not know about me: My full name is Nicolette Jeanne Abdinor. I have two older sisters (one in London and the other one in East London, South Africa) and a younger brother in California. I […]

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Be kind

My cousin was recently on an international flight. A man was sitting in her booked aisle seat and was grumpy and rude when the airhostess asked him to move. After landing the following morning, he asked to borrow a fellow passenger’s cellphone to make a call. His mother was ill and he didn’t know if she […]

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Positive vs Negative Emotions

“The word ‘happiness’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.” Carl Jung. We all want to experience positive emotions. We strive to be happier and experience joy, excitement and pleasure in our lives. As an inspirational speaker, the aim of my talk is to challenge the audience to think differently about […]

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