A “Good Life” for 2016

In a therapy session this week, a client and I were discussing how working life has changed (mostly through technology) but that WE haven’t changed. We haven’t evolved into beings that need less sleep and self-care. Imagine the days when a corporate job really ended at 5pm and you were only reachable the following day […]

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My 67 minutes for MANDELA DAY

I am giving an inspirational talk to an underprivileged school or non-profit organisation based in Cape Town in honour of Mandela Day. If you know of a school or NPO that can benefit from my message, like my Facebook Page and comment on the “Mandela Day” post with their name. Please note that the talk will […]

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I’m not good enough. What’s the evidence?

In a recent therapy session with a client, we uncovered that much of her current anxiety, self-doubt and subsequent stagnation in her managerial role was linked to negative feedback that she received 3 years ago from a senior manager. He told her that she was “not good enough” and moved her to another department. For […]

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No Limbs No Limits

The ominous theme music of Carte Blanche on a Sunday usually has a Pavlovian effect on South Africans. The weekend’s festivities are a distant memory and the “work mode” is triggered for the week ahead! Viewers were pleasantly surprised last night when we weren’t offered the usual line-up of corruption and crime. Instead, we watched the inspiring documentary […]

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20 things you might not know about me

In the spirit of authenticity, Robyn Young (Brandheart Personal Branding) inspired me to share a few things that you might not know about me: My full name is Nicolette Jeanne Abdinor. I have two older sisters (one in London and the other one in East London, South Africa) and a younger brother in California. I […]

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Be kind

My cousin was recently on an international flight. A man was sitting in her booked aisle seat and was grumpy and rude when the airhostess asked him to move. After landing the following morning, he asked to borrow a fellow passenger’s cellphone to make a call. His mother was ill and he didn’t know if she […]

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Positive vs Negative Emotions

“The word ‘happiness’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.” Carl Jung. We all want to experience positive emotions. We strive to be happier and experience joy, excitement and pleasure in our lives. As an inspirational speaker, the aim of my talk is to challenge the audience to think differently about […]

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What are your 2015 intentions?

I’ve entered the New Year with a list of “intentions” for 2015. I did a similar exercise last year and found it encouraging to go back to my list and to see how many intentions I managed to achieve and integrate in my life. Many involved stepping out of my comfort zone and taking risks. […]

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The practice of mindfulness

When you have lunch at work, do you sit in front of your computer catching up on emails while eating your sandwich? When your child shows you their homework, are you busy preparing supper at the same time? When you sit with friends or family at a restaurant, are you checking your phone for messages? […]

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